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THE TITLES READY 
The Point of View 
A Talk on Relaxation 
Mental Hygiene in Everyday Living 

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Published April 3, 1909 


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MENTAL HYGIENE 
IN EVERYDAY LIVING 

“You must be made of iron! ” a friend said, 
half enviously, once to a prominent educator 
who has to her credit a series of achieve¬ 
ments requiring great energy, nerve force, 
and application. 

“ I’m not,” she replied. “ But I have 
learned to use every ounce of my strength to 
the best advantage. When I have something 
on hand that requires all my powers — teach¬ 
ing a difficult class, writing an important 
article, facing a great audience, whatever it 
is, I never screw up my courage and my 
nerves to the sticking-point. I simply relax 
and decide that the thing I must do is quite 
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within my limits. I make my preparation 
thoroughly, but I go about it quietly and 
calmly, and when the time comes I meet it 
in the same relaxed, confident spirit. More¬ 
over, I never worry. On this way of working 
hangs the law of health and efficient living, 
for me at least.” 

Quite unconsciously, she was illustrating 
in a very capable life the value of mental 
hygiene. Mental hygiene, systematically ap¬ 
plied, helps nervous sufferers back to health, 
makes the timid courageous, teaches the lazy 
to work, cheers the hopeless, and gives more 
power to the industrious. Yet this mental 
hygiene, or mind-training, or psychotherapy 
is nothing more and nothing less than com¬ 
mon sense made authoritative in everyday 
life. 

A young woman who had been to several 
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noted European physicians, and who had 
exhausted the resources of one or two famous 
doctors of her own country, had got to 
the hopeless point, from which one glides 
into confirmed pessimism and melancholy. 
Mentally and physically she seemed unfit for 
any exertion. She ate little and slept less, 
and had no spark of interest in work or play. 
People tired her inexpressibly. Her home 
surroundings were far from congenial, and 
she had several very insistent troubles to 
worry about. At this point she was put 
through a course of, mental hygiene. Her 
competent, vigorous director literally pulled 
her out of her old thought-ruts, and into new 
paths of interest. She was almost coerced at 
first into changing her point of view and her 
very ideals. So strong was the director’s 
personality and so apt was the pupil when 


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she once began to understand the improve¬ 
ment she was making, that in a few weeks, 
without any change of surroundings or any 
lessening of her worries, she was on her feet, 
better than she had been for years, sleeping 
well, eating well, enjoying her friends, and 
getting ready to do her chosen work. Her 
restoration was nothing mysterious, only the 
correction of bad mental habits and a rational 
training in good ones, plus the obedience to 
sound physical hygiene, which thorough 
mental hygiene always includes. 

The majority of us, fortunately, are not in 
the desperate plight of this young woman; 
but in the interests of efficiency and more 
comfortable living we can practise the orderly 
regulation of our lives to great advantage. 
With the present hue and cry about the 
nervousness of the age, some such antidote 

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was due in the course of civilization. These 
are the days when a multitude of nervous 
disorders that our great-grandmothers never 
even knew the names of are making life 
hideous for thousands of victims. We shake 
our pessimistic heads and say: “ Oh, it is this 
strenuous pace. We live too fast. We ex¬ 
perience too intensely. We burn more fuel 
than we have, and these nervous disturbances 
are nature’s revenge.” 

Quite true! But the fact remains that we 
are not our unhurried grandmothers, living 
leisurely “bromidic” lives. We are our¬ 
selves, in a century full of pulsing, vigorous, 
surging life, with five-day steamers bridging 
the ocean, chugging autos on land whisking 
us over our vacation miles, and flying- 
machines threatening perfection at every 
moment. It is a splendid age to be a part 
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of. Moreover, we have no option. For 
better or worse, here we are to stay. We 
cannot view life from the confines of a tub 
like the wise Diogenes, nor turn back time 
to the quieter days of our grandmothers. 
What can we do, then? “Teach your igno¬ 
rant nervous systems to adapt themselves 
to the new conditions,” answers psycho¬ 
therapy. “Master your circumstances by 
getting into harmony with them.” 

This is rather an affront to our precon¬ 
ceived notions of the relation of things. As 
a nation, with fatalistic acquiescence we 
have taken our nervous diseases as the inev¬ 
itable corollary of our intense American 
temperament. Now we find that the inten¬ 
sity and the result are both preventable. As 
individuals, too, how convenient we have 
found it to hide behind our temperaments. 

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I have never forgotten the remark of a little 
woman I met once in a Nova-Scotian village. 
She was sick and miserable and broken down. 
She fumed and fussed and fretted over her 
troubles every weekday, and double for Sun¬ 
day. I ventured to suggest very mildly one 
day that perhaps she would be better if she 
did not worry quite so much. She turned 
on me with indignation. “ How can I help 
it?” she asked. “It’s my nature to worry. 
If I had n’t my own affairs to worry about, I 
should worry about my neighbors’.” 

Most of us are not so frankly ingenuous 
in expressing our convictions. But how 
many times in much more subtle ways have 
we blamed Nature for our own shortcomings! 
When we have been laid low by a tilt 
with some foolish Don Quixote windmill, 
how often have we said to ourselves, if not 
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aloud: “ Well, I could n’t help it; it’s natural 
for me to go into what I am doing heels 
over head, heart and soul. I must work that 
way.” When we have mental hysterics over 
an untidy maid or a disorderly family, we 
take great comfort in thinking, “ Of course 
it’s my New England inheritance that makes 
me hate dirt and dust so. I simply cannot 
stand it.” Again, we cut loose from the prac¬ 
tical concerns of life, forget our business 
obligations, our plain responsibilities, and 
our meals. Then when the inevitable hap¬ 
pens and some one has to do double work 
because we have shirked, we sigh deeply 
and murmur, “ Alas! it’s my artistic tempera¬ 
ment!” Not being angels, we can see our 
limitations; not being prigs, we like to ex¬ 
cuse them. Saddling them on nature is the 
way most flattering to us, so we do it. But 
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psychotherapy, or plain suggestion, says, 
“ Rid yourself of your limitations by sur¬ 
mounting them.” 

We are asked to believe, then, that we 
can modify our temperaments, that we can 
eliminate their faults and cultivate their vir¬ 
tues. Belonging to a certain type, that is, we 
can learn what the laws of harmony are for 
us, and having learned, we can live without 
struggle, happily and healthfully. Just why 
this serenity is such a good ideal, we do not 
always know. We need the enlightening 
wisdom of a medical Daniel to tell us that 
fight and fuss and worry in our own mind 
cause many of our nervous disorders. A 
Wall Street broker in the recent panic, when 
he saw his fortune to the last dollar slipping 
out of existence, said, cheerfully, “Well, I 
began with a shoe-string once. I can do it 
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again.” If we could all meet our emer¬ 
gencies in such a spirit the nerve specialists 
would have few patients. But most of us 
must acquire by patient practice an attitude 
even approaching such a joyful indifference 
to misfortune. Neither is it the great crises 
that are always hardest to meet. We, too, 
can bear them sometimes with a fortitude 
that is not far short of heroism. It is the 
little, petty, nagging things that tease us and 
wear us out. 

A friend of mine had a very hot temper, 
which she could not indulge without severe 
nervous disturbance afterwards. Learning 
something of the effect of emotion on the 
body, she decided that it was not only im¬ 
moral but destructive to health to give way 
to her temper, and she straightway set 
about reform. Soon afterwards, for a very 
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particular wedding she ordered a new 
gown. The dressmaker promised to de¬ 
liver it on time. She did. She sent it at 
the last moment to the train halffinished. 
Ordinarily there would have been an ex¬ 
plosion which would have spoiled the day 
for my friend and every one with her. But 
this time, instead, she sought a corner of 
the stateroom and throughout the journey 
tranquilly put in stitches where they would 
count most. When she reached her desti¬ 
nation she was basted into her gown, and 
instead of suffering tortures with a nervous 
headache as a result of her usual worrying 
and fretting, enjoyed the wedding as much 
as any guest there. She could not break 
up her habit of quick temper without many 
lapses, but each victory made the next 
a little easier. Hers was not a showy 
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conquest, it is true, but her self-control 
meant happier living for an entire family; 
and if anyone ever deserved a wreath of 
laurel, it seemed to me that even for that 
one victory it should have been awarded to 
her. 

The way we take the small things of 
life, the impression we let them make on 
us, counts greatly for health or against it. 
An admonitory quotation of childish days 
tells how “ for lack of a nail the shoe was 
lost, for lack of a shoe the horse was lost, 
for lack of a horse the rider was lost, for 
lack of the rider an army was lost, for lack 
of an army a kingdom was lost, and all for 
the lack of a horse-shoe nail.” Back some¬ 
where in our history, at some small vexa¬ 
tion, perhaps, we lost our nervous balance. 
Again we lost it, and again, and again, each 
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time more easily and more completely than 
before. We yielded to anger, or worry, or 
annoyance, or sorrow. We were ignorant, 
innocent enough in our intention. But ner¬ 
vous irritability set in, then nervous fatigue. 
They ate into our vitality. Less and less 
could we stand things. Then one day came 
a heavy strain, or perhaps only some small 
extra exaction, as the last straw. Crash 
went our nervous machinery. To the four 
winds went comfort and peace of mind, not 
only for ourselves, alas! but for every one 
within our family circle. The old story! 
All this accumulated suffering because, at 
the very beginning, when self-control would 
have been so easy, we did not know enough 
to practise it. 

Not superstition, but medical science, 
traces an origin like this for many of our 
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nervous shipwrecks. There is something 
very stimulating and tonic, too, in such a 
view of the catastrophe. A succession of 
wrong mental states has caused the disease, 
but just because of that we can do the evil 
charm backward, as it were, and by a suc¬ 
cession of right mental states regain our 
nervous health.^- Often the process is tedi¬ 
ous. In the early stages of a severe break¬ 
down, lost in a maze of strange sensations 
and astonishing symptoms, the nervous 
patient can do little but have faith in time, 
a doctor that understands medical mind¬ 
training, and Providence, who gives a 
morning of joy for the night of weeping. 
However wearisome the way, be not dis¬ 
couraged, and the end is sure — a better, 
happier, more efficient method of living 
than ever before. 


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Sometimes the action of psychothera¬ 
peutics is like sudden conversion. A woman 
of thirty-one, naturally a most vivacious, 
charming person, after various severe trials, 
including a reprehensible husband, went to 
pieces nervously. For nine years she was 
a wretched, helpless invalid; then she came 
into the care of a French physician, Dr. 
Du Bois. When he saw her first she had 
been in bed for months, unable to walk. 
On account of terrible pain in her eyes, she 
could neither read nor write. All daylight 
was shut out of the room. Even the mir¬ 
rors were removed, because she could not 
endure their glitter. She was swathed in 
flannels, and her head was wrapped in a 
shawl in spite of the heat of a day in 
mid-June. Her trouble, according to the 
doctor’s diagnosis, fell among the nervous 

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diseases, which are best reached through 
the mind. Without drugs, using simply ex¬ 
planations and suggestions that appealed 
to the reason of his patient, in three days 
he had her reading and writing letters and 
walking about a well-lighted room with 
mirrors on the wall. In a very short time 
she was taking a normal amount of ex¬ 
ercise, leading a busy, healthful life, and 
reading books on philosophy that required 
strenuous mental effort. 

Other cases of this variety of cure are 
reported by physicians and by the church 
clinics, where nervous sufferers are treated 
in connection with the far-reaching effort to 
unite religion, medicine, and psychology 
for the relief of nervous disorders. But 
often the cure must be more gradual. It 
is a process of reeducation. Dislodging 

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wrong convictions and substituting right 
ones takes time. No nervous patient need 
be discouraged who sees even a slight 
gain by the method of mental self-training. 
The world is in miniature, it may be, for 
the sick one, centring about a bed, an easy 
chair, and an insignificant daily walk. But 
if the little life is lived well, it fits one for 
the larger life of health. “ Learning to take 
a cold bath in the morning,” Dr. Barker 
of Johns Hopkins says, “or a wet pack at 
night with good grace, or to eat varieties of 
food to which one is disinclined, may be 
early lessons in will gymnastics.” A denied 
visit of a friend gives as good an oppor¬ 
tunity to practise resignation at one time as 
the loss of a trip to Europe might at an¬ 
other. With pain and incapacity shutting 
us away from active life for awhile, we may 


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still, as Emily Dickinson suggests, “play at 
paste till qualified for pearl,” and learn “pearl 
tactics practising sand.” 

It is in functional nervous diseases, with 
all their various modifications, that mental 
hygiene is most valuable. Perhaps you know 
by experience what functional means, though 
even physicians find difficulty in defining it. 
Perhaps sometime after a broken night, when 
you felt so wretchedly ill that you were ready 
to drop; when you were so blue without any 
cause that you seemed to yourself Job, Ham¬ 
let, and Schopenhauer rolled into one — you 
went to a doctor for advice, and he said to 
you: “ You are just as sound as*a nut. There 
is absolutely nothing the matter with you 
organically. There is n’t a thing in the drug¬ 
store that will help you.” Perhaps it seemed 
to you like a life sentence to purgatory, and 
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you wished you could crawl off into a corner 
somewhere, and just die off quietly. Under 
the old method, even if you were given 
physical treatment, or sent off for a change, 
there was no attempt to ease directly the 
tormenting thoughts which made the real 
misery of your condition. Now the method 
of treatment is very different. Whatever 
else the up-to-date nerve specialist may or 
may not do for you, he tries to set the current 
of your thoughts healthward, and to send 
you away with the hope that along that road 
comfort and strength are waiting for you. 

A functional nervous disease puts your 
mental world out of joint, to be sure; but in 
it the nervous tissue is not involved. For 
practical purposes, that is all a layman needs 
to know. Functional nervous diseases in the 
extreme form mow down our overstrained 
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relatives, strew our social and business way 
with breakdowns, and fill rest-cures and 
sanatoriums. It is a touch of functional dis¬ 
order that takes the pleasure out of whole¬ 
some work and sometimes blackens all the 
daily pages of a year. How many people, 
apparently well, are enduring discomfort like 
this silently, it is impossible to know. But 
it is the condition most favorable to the de¬ 
velopment of nervous catastrophe in some 
form. If the flavor has gone out of things, 
if you cannot catch happiness, if you are out 
of tune with yourself or with your world, for 
the sake of every one concerned take yourself 
in hand quickly. Begin to practise mental 
hygiene and learn through its teaching what 
a beautiful place this old world is to live in 
and to work in, when you know how to obey 
the laws of health. 

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While it is true that for a good while 
physicians have been exercising control of a 
kind over the minds as well as the bodies of 
their patients, only recently has it been done 
systematically and consciously on the basis 
of experiments made by psychologists and 
men of science. The evolution of this system 
to teach the mind control of the body is an 
interesting movement from superstition to 
reason. The faint beginning of it can prob¬ 
ably be traced back to the “ medicine-man ” 
of the savage tribes. His gyrations and in¬ 
cantations affecting only the mind, or what 
passed for a mind, in our progenitors must 
have been effective in many cases. Other¬ 
wise this primitive doctor would very soon 
have been served up as a meal to his infuri¬ 
ated brethren, and the “ medicine-man ” as 
an institution would have died an unnatural 
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death. Much later, in a far different state 
of civilization, mesmerism cropped up, and 
many people were undoubtedly cured by 
suggestion under the name of mesmerism. 
Mesmerism rationalized, with the nonsense 
deducted, became hypnotism; and hypnotism, 
in the hands of prominent French and Ger¬ 
man physicians, grew to be an important 
factor in the treatment of certain nervous 
diseases. By hypnotism, suggestions made 
in a state of sleep, to counteract pain and 
wrong habits, are obeyed in the natural 
waking state by the patient, with no recollec¬ 
tion of their origin. The habitual drinker 
finds his favorite drink not only distasteful, 
but positively nauseating, after a hypnotic 
suggestion. A woman loses her headache 
and the various nervous pains that have 
tormented her. Another, dreading a hard 
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siege in the dentist’s chair, is told that she 
will feel no pain. Obeying the hypnotic sug¬ 
gestion, she goes through the experience 
with almost a sense of pleasure. By further 
experimenting, progressive doctors have 
found that, except in extreme cases, sug¬ 
gestions made to patients in an expectant, 
unresisting mood act as well as hypnotic 
suggestions and have the added benefit of 
being worked out by the patient consciously. 
Now, except in extreme cases, hypnotism is 
almost discarded, and the emphasis is put 
on persuasion, education, and reeducation, 
the correction of bad habits and the formation 
of new ones, — character-building, in short, 
which after all is the alpha and omega of 
mental hygiene. 

The principle behind this form of treat¬ 
ment is by no means new. It is older than 
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the reply made by Epictetus the slave, some 
two thousand years ago, to the question, 

“ Who is free ? ” “ The man who masters his 
own self,” he said. It is at least as old as 
the proverb that tells us: “ He that ruleth his 
spirit is better than he that taketh a city.” 
Truths like these we have probably granted 
all our lives, with as little thought of their 
having a place in our working philosophy 
as the nebular hypothesis or the binomial 
theorem. It has remained for modern science 
and psychology, touching these principles 
with the wand of their experimental knowl- 
edge, to show us the whys and wherefores 
of these age-old truths, to teach us not only 
how they can cure our nervous ills, but how 
they can make the little homely round of our 
daily life, between sun-up and sun-down, 
happier and more efficient. 

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The lesson begins with the little things. 
Those break us down and those build us 
up. 

If we are millionaires in nervous energy, 
we can, perhaps, use the strength to move a 
mountain, and not suffer. But most of us, 
having only a limited amount of nervous 
force, must learn how to meet little things 
easily. Women who live at high nervous 
pressure are the ones most in need of the 
gospel of relaxation. This is a very large 
class. For the women living at high nervous 
pressure may be in the city whirl, with no 
unengaged moment from ten o’clock 
one morning until two o’clock the next, or 
they may be farmers’ wives, rising and retir¬ 
ing with the chickens, and seeing no human 
soul between daylight and supper. It is our 
inner attitude toward things, the amount of 
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emotion we spend on them, that makes them 
exhausting. 

Worry on top of work, the psychologists 
say, makes us like the old man of the fable, 
who not only excused his donkey from carry¬ 
ing him, but actually bore the little beast 
on his own back. Worry and anger and 
fear, and all their kith and kin of unpleasant 
emotions, have been proved by experiments 
to have an actual physical effect on the 
health of the body. This is such a familiar 
story now, that no one would attempt to 
deny it. 

At this point along comes some one, 
thinking she is a second “Lady from Phil¬ 
adelphia,” and with a very superior air 
says: “ If these emotions are bad for you, 
why don’t you simply drop them?” 

That is the obvious thing to do, of course; 
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but let her try it. Carrying these wrong 
habits of thought through many months 
and years, our mental shoulders have 
bowed so low to the burden that we can¬ 
not usually straighten them at once and 
shake off the load. We must raise them 
little by little, with some creaking of unused 
muscles. But the pleasure of release from 
the needless burden is worth all the effort. 

By persistent practise of such little exer¬ 
cises as the following may the comfortable 
result be attained. When house-cleaning is 
on hand, and Dinah is snappy, and the 
meat does n’t come, and your forgetful hus¬ 
band brings an unannounced guest, and 
you want to fly into ten thousand pieces, 
don’t. Find the funny side. Sit down one 
minute and laugh about it. Then make the 
best of the situation, and afterwards figure 
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out how much nervous energy you have 
saved to spend on a pleasanter thing, and 
how much discomfort from your bad tem¬ 
per you have spared a really good-natured 
and repentant husband. Again, when the 
fertile Bobby, in search of occupation, 
makes mud pies on the front parlor rug 
just before the first call of your most fash¬ 
ionable neighbor, don’t make it a tragedy 
ranking with bankruptcy and sudden death. 
Bobby must have a nice, appropriate pun¬ 
ishment, of course, but don’t draw out of 
your nervous bank-account for the purpose 
an amount of emotion that ought to last 
you a week. When you are in the midst 
of an important piece of literary work, and 
the Irish maid in the next apartment fur¬ 
nishes a continuous concert off the key, 
don’t condemn her to everlasting torment, 
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but bribe her to stop, if you can. If you 
cannot, stuff your ears with cotton. 

Some mortals blessed of the gods are so 
nicely balanced that they live without effort 
in a delightful equilibrium of mind, body, 
and spirit that makes work a joy, and living 
a pleasant procession of useful days. The 
rest of us — and we are the large majority — 
must achieve our equilibrium by efforts that 
make us appreciate Patrick’s famous prog¬ 
ress to heaven — two steps up and one 
back. The practice in self-control that 
makes perfect is gained from just the tri¬ 
fling occurrences that seem so absurdly 
unimportant. 

But how about the deeper experiences, 
when “ the heart knoweth its own bitter¬ 
ness,” and disappointment and sorrow seem 
the daily fare? Is mental hygiene of value 
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then ? Surely then, if ever. As a memorial 
of an only daughter, the dearest thing he 
had, a friend of mine gave a memorial fund 
to a college with the condition that the in¬ 
terest should be used each year for some 
girl who had worked and saved and 
scrimped her way through college. Each 
year since, the money has fallen like the 
gift of a fairy god-mother into some cramped 
life. For there is still a further condition,— 
that it shall be used for commencement • 
finery and a good time. My friend has 
built his daughter’s memorial as he wanted 
it; “not in bricks and mortar,” he says, 
“but in human happiness.” 

Introspection and lassitude, self-centredness 
and selfishness, are the dangers that lie in 
the wake of sad happenings. But they are 
dangers no longer if we build the memory 

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of them into human happiness. Suffering 
has its compensation, then; so, also, have 
pain and weariness, and all the ills that 
beset us. There is no better mental hygiene 
and no truer Christianity than this: to build 
suffering into joy. 

In general, an inflexible determination to 
meet what each hour brings efficiently and 
calmly, and without irritation, is the first 
requirement for nervous health. Next, the 
practice of optimism. Not the flabby optim¬ 
ism that blinds its eyes to realities and wears 
an everlasting fatuous smile, but the intelli¬ 
gent optimism that sees two sides to every 
human happening and deliberately chooses 
the bright one, until choice becomes a habit. 
This, in a nutshell, is psychotherapy, and by 
the application of it hundreds of nervous 
sufferers have won their way to health and 
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peace of mind. Hundreds more, if they follow 
the prescription, can escape breakdown alto¬ 
gether, and learn a happier method of living 
than ever before. Out of this systematic 
training in the little things and in the big 
things grows at last the trust, the “wise 
passivity,” in meeting the hard facts of life, 
that is only another name for the potential 
energy that conquers them. When the prac¬ 
tice of optimism has subjugated depression, 
and an orderly body obeys an orderly mind, 
there comes as a reward the buoyant hope¬ 
fulness of health, the joy in mere living, that 
throws out its arms and “with a frolic wel¬ 
come takes the sunshine and the storm.” 


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